Raising Do-Gooders

It is easier to teach children the concept of sharing to children whose needs (physical, emotional, psychological) are being met constantly in a loving, nurturing environment, says developmental pediatrician Dr. Ria de Guzman.

She stresses, though, that parents have to consider the child’s age, stage of development, and experiences with sharing, in order to determine his or her understanding of this concept.

Two-year-olds are still self-centered, and can only see things from their perspective. But by age 3 to 4, kids begin to understand and enjoy sharing. “It won’t happen overnight, but with constant positive reinforcements, children naturally learn to share,” Dr. de Guzman says.

Want to donate your kids’ old possessions? Dr. de Guzman shares three don’ts:

1. Don’t forget to ask a child permission to give away a toy. Be respectful of the fact that children can be attached to their toys and may need more time before they can let go of them.

2. Don’t force a child to give away a toy. If she or he consistently says no to a request to share a toy, talk it out with her or him. Encourage her or him by saying that sharing can make another child happy.

3. Don’t berate or punish the a child for not sharing. Trust that as the child grows older, she or he will appreciate the value of sharing. It just takes longer for some children to develop and appreciate the value of sharing.

Remember parents, children who feel secure and loved empathize better with those in need.

Source: Working Mom November 2013 issue (By Diadema Ecito)

Photo above: Children who feel secure and loved empathize better with those in need. (Image credit: www.liverpoolecho.co.uk)