Tips For Men On Love, Courtship and Marriage Part 1

Because I wrote a note for the ladies on this topic, it would be fair if I wrote for the men too. So here are some tips I’ve thought of for men: (Again, I am no guru or played ‘tricks’ before to come up with these thoughts, but just at the sincerest intention of my heart, I want to share what I view beneficial for men in this discussion.)

1.Pray

The first thing has to be prayer. The  intention for courtship should lead to marriage. However,  just before you ‘bend’ a knee for her, you must first ‘bend’ both of your knees before God. Ask for wisdom, guidance and discernment. Don’t be flippant with God. You have to truly be seeking before Him, having clear answers to what you are asking. When I happen to counsel men on this matter, I always ask them first what their own definition of marriage is first. If their answer is based on a Biblical (Bible-based or Godly principles) definition, then I think that man is half way ready for some serious stuff. I am sorry to say that a man who defines marriage in an unBiblical way (or not based on the principles of God or the Bible on the matter of marriage),  is NOT ready for such commitment yet. So  again, prayer is a prerequisite. If you’re a man and you want court a lady just because you’re lonely,  and you’ve got no intention to be married yet, don’t waste her time. Pray instead. Surely, God will lead you to His direction in your life.

2. Be A Godly Man And Lead Humbly

Being ‘godly’ and leading ‘humbly’ don’t mean being religious and weak.These simply mean living on your IDENTITY yet with acknowledgement of a Higher Being, whom where you can only rest your laurels on (since He’s reliable). If you are able to do this first, humility in leading follows (leading, as men are called by God to be the ones to lead especially in the family).

3. Make Money

This is a crucial point. This is the backbone to your relationship most especially when you decide to tie the knot. In a Godly perspective, while the Bible tells us to have faith and to rely on God in everything, it is also imminent to put actions to our ‘faith’. You see, the Bible tells us that “faith without works” is dead. If happen to lack knowledge on handling finances or at that, search on which helpful assets to invest on, don’t be apprehensive to seek financial planners and advisers. It would even be nice is you can get consultation schedules with good businessmen and learn from them or read books. One book which I recommend is Robert Kiyosaki’s “Rich Dad Poor Dad.” I suggest  stop spending on unimportant stuff and rather start collecting assets. Let us learn then at in order to ‘reap’, we must ‘sow’ first.

4. Be Clear With Your Intentions and Convictions

Don’t ever defraud a lady. If you have intentions to court her, you must tell her. It’s so sad that there are men who don’t know how to court, or rather confuse the lady of their interest by treating her nicely and make her feel special only to no direction. Use words. This goes out to women as well. Men don’t let women guess your intentions. After much prayer and godly counsel, tell her your convictions.  Whatever the outcome is and as both of you go along with the relationship, should you level up, lay ground rules between the two of you until you are hitched. Men, be godly men.

5. Be Consistent

In courtship, be consistent. If you set date times with her, achieve it. Be ahead before the time when you’ve agreed on a meeting time. If you want to get to know her more, then do it. Don’t be absent-minded when you’re with her. Mean what you say and say what you mean. When you do something, be excellent at it and let consistency spell the difference when it comes to lordship. With God at the middle of your relationship, have a regular Bible study with her if you can and have it in a safe public place. Pray with her regularly as well. There is nothing more reassuring to a woman than a man who loves God and is consistent.