Very many Christians today believe that we must be completely satisfied in God alone before we are to desire a spouse. They believe that the only time we are ready to be married is when we can say that we are content with being single. This train of thought and kind of thinking has been passed from church to church, believer to believer, and taken as if it were “gospel truth”… but is it really biblical?
Let me offer an alternate perspective.
Genesis 2 says that it was GOD who said “it’s not good for man to be alone.” He said it BEFORE the Fall. BEFORE sin entered the world. Think of that for a moment.
God knows our desires because He’s the one who gave us these desires.. so when we are trying to be content with God all alone and completely before recognizing our desires for a relationship, it’s futile. We are trying to fight against desires that God Himself placed in our hearts. It’s like saying “I’m so hungry because I have not eaten in days. But I will not eat until I am completely satisfied with God alone. The only time I can truly be ready to eat is when I am content with not eating at all.” The person missed the whole point. And then, people say that it’s fasting. It’s not fasting; it’s foolishness because God created us to need food! I do believe in fasting, but I have a very different definition of fasting. For one thing, fasting is TEMPORARY. If we keep it up, we’ll die of starvation.
It is the same with God and relationships. No place in Scripture will we find that God wants us to “BE SATISFIED ON GOD ALONE BEFORE DESIRING A SPOUSE.” There is a time for worship, Scripture, fellowship, and prayer. We do these consistently. But when it comes to desiring a spouse, don’t fight it. Rather, embrace the desires as they come from God, thank Him, glorify Him, honor Him, and pursue Him as you recognize these desires. And as you live out your life to fulfill these desires, be grateful to Him and consistently praise Him for giving us such wonderful emotions, longings, and pleasures.
It’s sad that one reason why soooo many single Christians these days are so afraid of relationships is simply because they are trying so hard to fight and suppress the very desires that God Himself wants them to have. To desire for a spouse is such a godly desire, and so often misunderstood and misconstrued as either idolatrous or distracting or ungodly.
If I had a daughter, and she has a man in her life who loves God and love her, and is a very godly man, and if they love each other very dearly and desire to marry each other, the last thing I would say to her is “Sweety, unless I see that you are COMPLETELY satisfied in me, I will never allow you to marry.” That is just plainly wrong. Rather, I would be so full of joy to know that they want to get married! I will be excited and happy for them, and I will rejoice and delight in the event and even support their decision! As her father, I would even go as far as work on my business harder to make sure that I could give my daughter and her fiance the wedding that she has always dreamed of!
When I have kids, I doubt I’m ever going to say “Kids, you’re hungry? Wanna have lunch? Nope! You can’t eat a single bread crumb until I know that you kids are completely satisfied in ME first, and ME alone.” If I did that, I would be a very wicked and insecure father, wouldn’t I? Well, that is how we look at God when we think and speak of Him that way. Wouldn’t it be so much more beautiful and wonderful if the children see that their dad is secure and that He is such a gracious provider? They would be able to keep coming to their dad, trusting in him and being grateful to him for always providing for them. In the same way, the God I know from scripture actually DELIGHTS when His children desire marriage. Genesis 2 is proof of that. God delights in celebrating with His children because HE is the AUTHOR of their love stories! And marriage is the PRIMARY example or analogy that God uses to make us understand the relationship of the Trinity and the relationship of Christ and the Church. Lordship after all is not about God being the only desire. Lordship is about God being our first desire.
Psalm 37:4 says “Delight in the Lord your God, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” Delight in the Lord your God. That is indeed such a beautiful verse! The psalms speak of praises and shout great songs of praise to God because He is FAITHFUL. Faithfulness is a direct implication that we have desires that God fulfills! And this is something that we are to worship and praise Him for.
So if you are Christian, single and is frustrated because you are not content in God alone, don’t fret. Rather, thank Him for your desires and seek His heart and His ways as you live out your life to fulfill those desires!
Childhood Obesity: Chubby Is Not Equal To Healthy
Cute is a word most likely used to describe chubby kids, but being chubby may not be cute after all as these kids may actually be among those having childhood obesity without their parents realizing it. Unfortunately, “obese” may sometimes be mistaken as “healthy” as some parents may have the idea that a visibly fat child is a healthy child.
Childhood obesity is believed to be on the rise and this problem is certainly becoming a fat one.
The World Health Organization (WHO) estimates that the number of overweight children under age five in 2010 is 42 million with 35 million found in developing countries. Obese children may likely remain obese as adults and will likely develop health problems like diabetes and cardiovascular diseases at a younger age according to the WHO.
But childhood obesity can be preventable, and prevention should start even when the child is still in the mother’s womb. The New England Journal of Medicine cites excessive maternal weight gain, smoking during pregnancy and shorter-than-recommended duration of breastfeeding as some factors associated with increased risk for obesity in infancy and early childhood.
During the infancy stage, less-than-12-hours sleep duration is also a factor. As the child grows, other factors come in. Foods high in fat and sugars but low in vitamins, minerals and micronutrients are widely available and provide a temptation that is hard to resist among children. With these foods around, unhealthy eating habits tend to occur. Add to this is the increasing trend towards lesser physical activity with increased TV hours and with playing time confined to a seat with the entry of video and computer games as well as increased urbanization.
Ask a child about their favorite snack and fruits are rarely mentioned. Try asking a child today about street games like “buwan-buwan”, “siatong” or, “tubig-tubig” and chances are, nobody is playing those games nowadays. Instead of spotting kids running on the streets, you will find toddlers to adolescents making their avatars run for them in “Temple Run” or “DOTA”.
It’s not just the children’s behavior that is to blame but the parents too. Some parents are actually contributing to the problem of obesity in their own children as they spoil their child with food and lots of it. “The idea that a big baby is a healthy baby, and a crying baby is probably a hungry baby who should be fed, are things we really need to rethink,” Dr. Leann Birch, director of the Childhood Obesity Research Center in Penn State said.
With many Filipinos working abroad, it is possible that there are also some parents who may make up for their physical presence by allowing a child to watch plenty of TV, or play video and computer games. Many parents become so busy at work that they often find less time with their kids, time which could have been spent for having family walks, biking, jogging and other physical activities.
The prevention of childhood obesity should be a multisectoral effort that should start within a family and should include schools, civil society and the private sector. Parents are very important for prevention to be successful. Early in life, mothers should breastfeed their children. They should promote healthy diets by making healthy foods and beverages available in their homes. The intake of fruits and vegetables should be encouraged. Healthy school snacks should also be served to children instead of packaged snacks. Having family meals together is also encouraged.
Parents should also promote a healthy lifestyle by acting as models to their children encouraging their children to engage in sports or perhaps do physical activities together. Television and computer time should be reduced.
Next to parents, the school plays an important role to reduce childhood obesity. Health education promoting healthy behaviors and creating a healthy school environment should be integrated. School canteens should offer healthy choices too. School gardens can be used as a tool to increase awareness about food origins and nutrition. Sports and fitness programs should be activated. Physical activity should be encouraged among teachers, parents, students and the entire community.
With these combined efforts, it is the hope that this childhood obesity epidemic will be put to a stop.
My Contribution to Make Philippines a Better Place
Everyday is an opportunity to learn. To keep myself abreast with new updates in the industry and how to change outlook from being purely an insurance agent or salesperson to being a very effective Financial Consultant: I am to broaden my knowledge and improve my skills. I have to improve myself and be a cut above the rest- not to be a sub-par agent. One who effectively assesses the financial needs of my clients and finds out what they have done and what more they can do to improve the handling of their finances, and most importantly, to remind them of why they worked so hard and thus, guide them to set their priorities right.
My role therefore, is not just to sell any product, but to make them see the value of their human capital-their ability to provide and create what they wanted for their families to have such as to build the house they dreamed of, send their kids to the best schools, go to their dream vacations, do civic activities and give contributions. They all can achieve their goals, be financially secured for as long as they can and work hard.
We the working men and women have to put much value of our life’s potential. With this we have to consider the risk that surrounds us. What are these risks? The uncertainties of what lies ahead us. Uncertainties such as diagnosis of critical illnesses, disability, and untimely death, we don’t like this to happen but if it does, it would greatly affect our ability to work- our income potential and therefore, would be a hindrance to the realization of the goals that we have set or the dreams we aspire for our loved ones. What do our clients have if such events happen? How much do they have? Would it be enough? What do you have? Is it enough? This is where I can give the solutions for it. I am their friend and their Financial Consultant. I will make them see the need, provide them the solutions and make them act upon it. I am therefore not a salesman. I will, at the best of my abilities, create the money my client’s family needs – to unload them of the possible financial burden that they should not experience. We all deserve the best in life. We all are provided with what we need. We have the best resources, the ability to work. And it is our responsibility to be good stewards of these blessings. How well we manage our finances today determines the kind of life we (given the time) and our loved ones will live. Would we allow putting our hard work not have a pay off? Would we just play today and pay it later? What does our client want to be, what do you want to be: A blessing or a burden? What we do today will determine it.
This is my mission. Given this position, I take it my responsibility to let my clients see, feel and act on the best solutions I can give. A contribution we all can take part in changing and making our country a better place not just for our generation, but for the next generations to come.
“Disconnect to Connect”
(I read that phrase somewhere in Facebook and thought of it as an appropriate title.)
My two-month old S4 suddenly went berserk. It would turn off in the middle of my Facebook stalking, disturbing my guilty pleasure three times that night. The next day, my boyfriend and I went to Ayala. He would always drop by Data Blitz to check on or buy a game for his 3DS; I didn’t mind because it would give me time to peek through my FB notifications and do mass check ins on Foursquare.
While I was happily doing these, my phone did it again. This time, it would turn off and back on repeatedly. Panicking, I carried my phone like a baby having an asthma attack as we rushed to find the nearest seat. I removed my phone’s battery to save it from further torture. (Pardon me if I sound like an obsessed little girl but I can get really crazy with anything I fancy.)
We then went to Smart to get that certificate that says I’m subscribed to their post-paid plan, and finally to the Samsung shop at Ayala’s New Wing. Being new, this branch was less crowded, we didn’t need a priority number to be assisted. (When this gets published and people discover its existence (whichever comes first, haha) I still hope I wouldn’t be needing a priority number. (Impossible)
The technician told me to back up all my files as my phone may need to be reformatted. Gladly, it still turned on; I hurriedly transferred all my selfies and food photos from my internal memory to my SD card. With a stroke of luck, I was able to do all of these before my phone turned off again.
When we came back to the shop after a wait time of 2-3 hours, we found out that it was only a battery problem which can be fixed by (of course) battery replacement. Because they had to order the battery from Manila (I think), this meant having a dead phone for 7-10 business days. I thought of all the photos I would not be able to take during this hiatus so I decided to buy an extra battery. (Me and my irrational passion for capturing daily memories.)
The technician told me that the reason why my phone kept auto-restarting was overcharging. Yes, I admit to have overcharged it . . . almost everyday. Aside from overnight charging, I also charge my phone while using it. Here are the things that the tech told me to do to avoid this from happening in the future:
1. Turn off the phone (or do not use it) while charging.
2. Do not overcharge it.
3. Once a month, ‘overcharge’ it a little by unplugging it ten minutes after it says battery full. This prolongs battery life. (He used a term to describe this method. With my goldfish memory, I could not remember the exact word. When I downloaded Battery Doctor, I figured it was called ‘trickle stage‘.)
4. Charge the phone when it says battery low (duh). Do not wait for it to be drained completely.
Well these are just basic stuff which I, unfortunately, did not follow.
I am not sure if what the tech said were 100% true and accurate. I learned my lesson though and by following what he said, had more time for things I have not paid attention to before. Now that I have to wait for about two hours for my phone to be fully charged, I already have time to talk to my siblings, do some cleaning or even the laundry, and prepare for the next day at work.
I remember this post that I wrote a few months ago: Nowadays, many people are “participating” more in social networks than in real life. With these sites being accessible anytime and anywhere, everyone is just glued to their smartphone, iPod, iPad or whatever, often forgetting that there’s a person beside them they can have an actual conversation with.
Turning off my phone for about two hours a day has indeed taught me that there’s more to life than my 5″ Full HD Super AMOLED display.
Sa Tuig 2018, Sugaton Ta Ang Mga Iro
Tik, tak, tik, tak…2018 nagsingabot na…
ang taknaan nagpangatagak,
may mga saad nga namulak,
may nabahaw ug napan-os,
mga pasalig nga napaltos,
luyahong minuto ug segundo,
tuig 2017 nagkaawop na,
nagkalanay sa atong mga mata,
tuig sa mga nagtuktugaok nga manok,
mga hinayon, mga mahilig magminanok,
pag-ilaid sa mga damgong napulak gitagamtam,
nagpasad sa atong pagpadulong sa unahan..
tik, tak, tik, tak…
maampingong nangandam, ang iro, alang sa 2018,
kakugihan niyang mamaghot, tataw’ng may gipaabot,
bag-ong panaad gipangladlad,
sa kasingkasing gibukhad,
pakiglambigit sa kinabag-an,
paghinultol sa buluhaton,
kakugi, kahibalo’g kamadasigön,
itanom, atong bugtawön….
tik,tak, tik, tak…
sa atong kamot,
sa atong paningkamot,
mautingkay ang nagpaabot,
sa atong pagbuot,
mahimong maharuhay ug maalimuot,
ang gipangandaman tang umaabot…
sa tuig 2018,
tubagon ta ang mga pangutanang nagpaabot
iladlad ta ang agianang gipanglukot
hala pasudlon ta ang mga iro, panid-an ta ang muabot….
tik, tak, tik,tak…
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